This Saturday on Lifetime a new movie is premiering. Now, I love Lifetime movies despite the predictable story lines and bad acting. I can’t help it.
But I’m hoping this movie is different. I’m hoping its relatable and authentic. The movie is Return To Zero, and it’s about a couple whose son is stillborn at 35 weeks. I’m hoping they get it right. This is personal and I don’t want them to mess it up. It is still a movie, so I’m sure there will be added drama, but losing a child and trying to survive life after is dramatic enough.
The couple in the story end up separating for a while after their son dies. I’ve seen some reports online that the divorce rates for couples who lose a child is higher than those who do not. I don’t know if that’s true, but I can see how it’s possible. Moms and Dads process grief so differently. Even though your spouse is experiencing the same loss, grief can be so isolating. And heartbreaking. It puts a serious strain on even the strongest marriage.
I’m not expecting it to be like looking into a mirror of my own experience because this movie is not my story, but I feel like there are common elements that can be found in all of our stories. I have related on a deep level with several women who I have never met in real life through our shared loss. I want this movie to honor our journeys.
I want it to show the gut-wrenching pain, anger, and denial. But more than anything I want this movie to show hope, healing, and restoration. I don’t know if it will reflect a Christian worldview, but if it doesn’t, please let me share this with you: Christ alone heals. Yes, time may make the sharpness of the pain dull. Yes, a new child may bring laughter and a welcome distraction. But, Christ alone brings true healing. It’s that simple. There is no other explanation.
I read this on a blog today and wanted to share because I love the wording. It’s a beautiful image. “God has her. God has us. He’s just holding us on different ends of eternity.” I claim that promise because I know Jesus. If you aren’t sure that you can claim that promise, please talk to me. I’d love to tell you about my Jesus.